Wednesday, January 1, 2014

A New Year: 2014 Edition

2013 was quite a year for me. I'd characterize it most by one word: change.

These past 12 months have been spent getting to know myself from an outside perspective. I've focused a lot on how I'm perceived by people around me, and making sure that the person and attitude I project is really something that I want to be put out there. A lot of this is done by stopping and thinking about the other people in my life. Thinking about how they feel, and about what's going on in their lives, and how I and the way I act might affect them.

This year meant a lot of putting myself second, and that was great for me as a person. I've developed an almost habit of putting the people in my life before me, and it feels good to care about other people more than myself. In the end, I've really become a person that I almost respect. I can accept that there are plenty of things about myself that I don't like, but I'm here to continue to improve, and continue to change. If I couldn't see those shortcomings, they'd never change.

Because of all this, I've made some incredible friends in the last year, and existing relationships in my life have grown even stronger. I could never have made it this far without so many supportive friends, and I love you all so much.

All that said, I can't say that 2013 was perfect in any way. I made my fair share of mistakes. I hurt a lot of feelings by not thinking about other people, and I'm not proud of that. I'm continuing to focus on putting others first, and keeping the good habits I made in the last year.

My decided I wouldn't make resultions this year, but would make goals, and have a good way to attain them all. 

I. Have no regrets. This doesn't mean "#YOLO." This means that I don't want to look back at this year and have any regrets in my life. I don't want to regret how I treated my friends. I don't want to regret what I did in any way. I want to look back at my choices and know that what I did was best for myself, and everyone else in my life. 
     a. Continue to think of others first. This means thikning about how my actions affect the other people in my life. It means thinking about what I feel and think, and phrasing it in a pleasent way.
     b. Give more than I expect to get back. This applies to my friendships, professional life, and my relationship. It means that I give more to everyone than I expect back. Sometimes the people around you have a lot to deal with. And sometimes they need you to be understanding. 
     c. Get healthy. This doesn't mean doing a juice cleanse and saying "DONE!" This doesn't mean going to the gym a few times and calling it good enough. This is a long-term lifestyle change that starts with trying new foods and eating a healthy diet, on top of making it to the gym a few times a week. I have a health buddy to keep me honest about my goals, and it's all starting small, but it's long since time that this happens.
    d. Keep my life organized. Not just making my bed. Not just throwing my clothes in the basket. This is having a place for everything, and putting it there when I'm done with it. This is actively picking up when there's a mess of any kind. When something needs done, it gets done.